Turning Over A New Leaf: How to Talk to Your Loved One About Caregiving
There are, however, ways to prepare for the conversation that can make it easier on you and them.
First, if possible, don’t wait until there is a crisis to begin talking about a new care routine. Try to bring it up before something dangerous happens, or potentially just after your loved one has an “almost” scare, such as a fall down the stairs that was avoided, or a mishap in the kitchen that you caught just in time.
When you bring up the topic, try to present it in a way that lets your loved one know that decisions have not been made without them. Be sensitive to the fact that although you may have been considering hiring someone to help them with their daily activities for a long time, this may be the first moment they have ever considered it. Try to give them some options, as there are many available, and reassure them that you will still be there for them just as much as you are now.
Finally, be straightforward and honest, but also be patient. Give them concrete examples of ways a caregiver could make their quality of life better on a daily basis. Once you give them some time to consider how nice it would be to have company throughout the day as well as help running errands and taking care of everyday chores, they will likely be appreciative of the research you’ve done to find a good caregiver and grateful for your love and support.